Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.
This is the second installment of a series I am writing about parenting.You may read the first chapter of this essay here
Lawd I hope I am Doing This Right
We as parents have an immense capability to irrevocably damage a child. In the beginning, we are all they have. As time progresses we are the best example our kids have. The life we live in front of them is etched into their minds for the remainder of their lives. Either we are a moral example of how to live or leave them to their own vices and hope the wilds of the world raises them correctly. Either choice is a risk because sometimes you do all that is right in your mind and things still don’t turn out right. However, it’s an adventure and as with all adventures there are risks that can lead to great rewards.
The Gut Punch
Over the course of the years as we navigate the stormy seas and calm evenings of being a parent, we must be prepared to offer advice and soul healing affection when darkness visits our children. Trust the days will come when they walk into our homes with their heads down and emotionally raw from the sucker punches that life often throws our way. Out of breath and exasperated they plop down on the couch and look to you to offer the soothing balm of understanding and love. When they ask for your advice, just listen and don’t be quick to judge. Offer advice based on your own experiences and what you’ve learned through out life. Can we guarantee it will be the best we can offer? No. All we can do is hope the right thing is said at the right time.
Ok Follow Me:The Moral Compass
Teaching what is right and wrong means a lot of things to different people. However, giving a child a moral compass or ideals that define character are really important. When they leave our home, and embark on their own journey we, as parents, want to be confident our kids live a life that not only we are proud of but them also. We can be the example of what a stable relationship looks like. We can be the example of how to treat others with respect. We can be example of how to pick yourself up when life slams you to the ground. Doing these things are not easy because we are flawed human beings. We are born into a world that is rife with temptation. Being the best parent all the time is, in my opinion, virtually impossible. Outside of Jesus there is no perfect man or woman.